It’s all too easy to focus on doing things. We have our lists whether they are written on paper, our computer/phone, or in our heads, and we need to get things done….but what about time for being?
I need this blog post! For the last few months from before moving house to now settling into our new home, there have been many lists. So many things to do. Each day brings new things….yes, some items get crossed off the list, but then others get added. Many might not be particularly important, but we still have to get them done and within our self-imposed time limit.
And then I realize that all I’m doing is getting things done. I’m not enjoying my surroundings and exploring. I’m not walking to the beach every day. So then I do walk to the beach and the whole day brightens up and I feel great…..But then I get back into my lists again the next day.
I recognize that moving house is an extraordinary situation and not an everyday thing – but still, I’m definitely prolonging it and I don’t want to make this “doing” a habit. What is your excuse? Too much work, children to ferry around….
Human Being vs Human Doing
So what about you? When was the last time you:
- just sat down and read a book
- took a walk with no time restriction
- sat on the porch
- played a game
- made time to do sewing, knitting, craft, jigsaw puzzle for pleasure
- enjoyed a family dinner with conversation
- had a great conversation with your partner/family member
- ignored your list for a day
- took time to think about who you are, not what you do
- or had your equivalent of my walk to the beach?
Are you too busy to just “be”, even for a short period of the day?
As with so many things in life, it comes down to balance. Obviously, we need to do things in life. We don’t want to join the “do nothing club”, but all too often we get into the doing mode and forget to be.
I frequently see this imbalance in those dealing with an illness. You have lots of appointments to go to, lots of things to deal with, possible pain and other difficulties. But this is just the time you should be doing the things you love in life. Remember who you are. Illness may take away things you can do, but it doesn’t take away who you are.
Maybe the answer is to have an item on our to-do list that is “be”!! Would that help? Can you create a slot in your life by putting time on your list or calendar every day?
Take some time for yourself today and think about who you are. Yes, it will include some of what you do, but there is so much more to you. Give those parts as much priority as your continuing to do list.
And next time someone asks you what you do, you can turn it around and tell them who you are, as that is far more interesting than just what you do.
That’s all for now. The sun is shining and I’m off to the beach!